What To Wish For

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What To Wish For

by Roxy
(America)

In the wishing section you haven't really stated what or what not to wish for. You have said the basics, that you are not allowed to wish for the bad of others or it will come back to you. Like Karma, I guess. But what else are you not allowed to wish for? It seems obvious that we can't wish for something like flying because that's not how we were made, so we are not able to fly, right?

But what would be considered an impossible wish then? Or, on the contrary, a possible wish? Can you wish to be taller? Can you wish for a different voice? Can you wish to change the color of your eyes? As you can see, most of these 'wishes' are based on physical changes, my next question is: can you wish to change physical appearance?

You had said in the Wishing section that you are not allowed to wish for the bad of others, but can you wish for the good of them? Or are we not allowed to wish for others in general?

It would be great if you could clear a few of my questions up! Thank you so much, and I'll be looking forward to your reply.

Ophelia Fey says -- Thank you for so carefully reading the Wishing page. You are getting a good picture of wishing. And I am going to make a Link from the Wishing page to these wishing questions. As you said, you must not wish for the bad of others. (Very few Wishing Fairies would work with such a wish anyway, plus it will backfire on you).

This is the tricky thing about wishing for others: You may think you know what is "good" for them. But that is according to your own personal opinion.

The truth is, sometimes a person must "go through" something for very specific reasons that are only between them and the Power That Is, (Whatever or Whoever you choose to call It). We do not get to decide what is "good" and "bad" in many matters. It may be good for someone to have a difficult experience because they are meant to learn something that their soul definitely needs to learn, even though it may seem "bad" to you. That is not up to a human or fairy to decide.

Yet what may seem "good," like a healing or wealth, may not at all be what a particular person needs at a particular time. You may indeed be able to set things in motion for it to happen. And you may indeed help it come about. But you also may indeed have meddled in something you should not be meddling in. You simply do not know all the ins and outs of a given person and their Purpose and Lessons, and what is behind everything. Do you see? It gets very, very tricky.

So if you feel that you absolutely must make a wish involving someone else, then keep this in mind. And always wish only for the highest and the best for them according to what is Meant To Be. (It is the same as with a prayer, really). And always leave it in the hands of the Power That Is to decide on the final outcome. However, if your outcome should truly be the best, your wish could very well have set in motion a powerful force -- the special boost -- needed to get it going.

So fairies tend to only deal with wishes that are for or about the wisher. It is just more clean cut.

As for wishing for physical changes and appearance for yourself, you can certainly wish. And if it is possible, it may happen. But always in accordance with what you are ready to receive and your Natural Law. Indeed, your hair may grow longer and you may grow taller. But you understand that the likelihood of this happening by the time you wake up in the morning just Ain't Going To Happen (I happen to like that little phrase). However, it may happen quite a bit faster than it otherwise would have. And indeed, eye color has been known to change in humans. But why ever would you want to wish for that? It seems rather pointless to me and a tremendous waste of energy, which every wish takes.

I completely understand why humans might want to change their appearance to look more "beautiful." However you define that, which is different in different cultures. But this too can be tricky. For instance, say a person has a serious birth "defect" as you call it (although we would never use that term in Faerie), and wishes it to be changed. Perhaps it will. In time. That person may be led to an expert and to the money to help "correct" it. But you do not know exactly why the person has it, or what lessons need to be learned. Perhaps for themselves, or for their family or community. Perhaps to teach about compassion and acceptance. The more important things in Life. Perhaps as an opportunity for the expert they are led to, to make an important discovery. Do you see how complicated this can get? Fairies would like people to come to better understand Inner Beauty, rather than outer.

And the wisher must also be open to the outcome of the wish, that whatever it is may be the absolute best, even though they did not get transformed as "perfectly" as they thought they would.

But wishing certainly does not hurt. It does not hurt to ask, and it is not wrong. As long as you ask in accordance to the Highest and the Best, when it comes to your personal matters. Humans are meant to learn to master themselves and their environment, and to expand -- in a good way. And after all, what comes to you may be even more spectacular than you ever imagined!!

Ophelia Fey, fairy

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What To Wish For

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Wishing time
by: felicia

Do all wishes come true at night?

[Ophelia Fey says] - Indeed not! Wishes have nothing to do with time of day or night, nor of seasons. Yet all wishes have their time and season for growing and happening. They happen when they happen. At any time or day or night!

Question
by: Anonymous

Can you wish to help somebody else? I read everything on the "Wishing" page and it only said that you can wish for yourself, but can you do it for the good of someone else?

[Ophelia Fey says] - I've mentioned before in the Ask A Fairy section here, that you must always ask for the Highest and Best for a person. Otherwise you are interfering with their free will, and perhaps lessons they are meant to learn.

Question
by: Camille

Hello! I looked over the wishing section and the comments you have given people. Before I begin, let me start off by saying thank you for making such a wonderful website for fairy believers like moi. This is a dumb question but can we wish for a person to exist? I don't think it's possible but it doesn't hurt to ask. I.e. If you were thinking about a guy with dark hair and such and such and wanted him to be real. Thank you for reading this and answering.

[Ophelia Fey says] - Perhaps he already does exist and is quite real. Somewhere. You just have not yet been connected. That is the only way it will happen - a person does not just materialize out of nothing.

Anyway... I would be more concerned, however, about the qualities of a person that you are compatible with, because anything physical such as appearance can suddenly change for various reasons. And then what? If you concentrate on the qualities of the person you want (and perhaps in the back of your mind also know the basic looks he might have, but not as important) then there is a better chance he will be connected to you.

How to wish
by: Jessie

I have read your entry about wishing and I have read the comments. What I want to know is, how do I wish? Like, do we have to say something in particular, for example, I wish for a horse, or do we just dwell on it and the feeling for a little while? And, can I wish to talk to animals? Or just know what their actions mean? I have always cared for animals with all of my heart, and I can already tell that they do to. I already understand animals some. I understand the way dogs act. And why they act. And what they mean. I can also name what breed a dog is when it goes by. But, is it selfish to wish to understand them more and to understand other animals too? And can I ask for my Nana's pain to go away or just to lessen? She has a disease called Collidious and basically the internal organs are inflamed. Lately, the pain is getting worse. Can I wish for the pain to lessen? Can I also wish to be able to sense other people's aura, or is that not possible for humans? Also, how do we wish? Do we dwell on it, or say a certain phrase which includes it? Sorry if I have too many questions. I am just really curious.

[Ophelia Fey says] - Jessie, I am glad to hear that you are very curious. But you are right - you do have a lot of questions here. And some of them have been answered a bit elsewhere.

But...to make a wish, you can say it out loud if you would like (you may be familiar with the power of the spoken word). But it is not necessary. What is most important is that you consistently and patiently hold it in your mind over time, and visualize it daily, how it IS right NOW, as if you have it NOW.

It is not at all selfish to want to understand more about animals. You probably know that there are those who are extremely attuned to the energy of animals and can "communicate" with them, in a sense.

Regarding wishing about someone else's pain to go away... I have answered this type of question before. Since you do not know the purpose of this illness or its lesson, you must be very, very careful about wishing for another. You may wish for the Highest and Best for that person. And let things take their correct course.

You can definitely wish to sense others' auras, and that is very possible for humans. Many can do this. It is, in fact, natural to do so. It's just that most people are so detached from nature and their natural state, plus are so distracted by electronics, devices and noise, that they have lost the ability.

Just because you put a wish out there, does not mean that you will not need to do anything else. You may need to take some steps. To learn what to do. So keep alert as to who and what may come your way to teach you. And take the opportunity, if you can recognize it. This is often how wishes come true. Through others and through circumstances that are brought to you. If people can only be alert to recognize it for what it is, and "go for it."

Wish for true friends?
by: ruby

Is it possible to wish for true friends? I really want a true friend.

[Ophelia Fey says] - Yes, that would be quite an excellent wish, actually. I highly suggest that you do not hold in your mind any preconceived ideas of what you want the true friend to look like or to be like, except of course the qualities that you want in that person.

Think about what the words "true friend" mean to you. What is your expectation of a true friend, and is it realistic? What some people expect of a true friend is a bit unrealistic and borderline selfish. Also consider that to have a truly true friend, you must be a true friend in return. Otherwise the friendship could very well fall apart.

At any rate, it is important to be very clear about what this means to you, how it would be, what kinds of friend things you would do, etc. That is what you should visualize for yourself and concentrate on. And know that drawing such a friend to you is entirely possible. Everybody deserves a true friend.

Wishing for That Which has been Lost
by: Anonymous

I have been through a truly horrendous time, one loss after another. My wish is to get back some of what I have lost. I gave so much to those I loved that I lost what made up my own personal world. As well as those I loved. I know you can't go back in time and change things, and those you love do transition into the next world. And I don't regret giving everything to those I loved. But now I would like to get back some of what I have lost. And I realize that things will not be the same; I have changed, the world had changed, but my yearning, my need remains as great as it was with the first loss.

[Ophelia Fey says] - I'm sorry to hear of your difficulties. You have a very correct perspective on this. You cannot go back in Time. Whether you can get back some of what you lost is another matter. I am glad to hear you have been generous.

But remember, if you then cause yourself to become endangered, destitute, or terribly burdened, you will not be able to be as much help to others. And certainly not to yourself. But you do have great Power and resources within you, to re-establish yourself.

So it is of utmost importance now to learn to go within and strengthen that Power, to learn to tap into it. It is never-ending and boundless. It does not "run out." Learning how to tap into your own Power is the key to your ongoing well-being. And then no matter what happens in life, you know you will eventually be able to rebound. Although perhaps is a different way.

I think my wish came true
by: gabriele

I think my wish came true:)

[Ophelia Fey says] - Very good, Gabriele! It is always exciting when this happens, because it gives confidence. You have a great deal of Power withing you; so have confidence in that Power.

Fairies Happiness Wish
by: Lauralee

I came across your site because of my first granddaughter's first birthday that I'm putting together. Her mother loves fairies and so does her daughter and I. I love the stories and pictures. My wish would be for my children and children's children to be happy.

[Ophelia Fey says] -- That is a lovely wish, Lauralee. (I renamed the title of your submission to reflect your thoughts.) I also wish for all children (and everyone) to be happy. But alas, that is not as easy as it may sound, as human will is always involved, and we cannot interfere with that.

However, just making your wish has set the Possibility into motion. You understand that there will always be trials along the way. But hopefully the happiness can outweigh the hardships. And that lessons can be learned from everything, and therefore turned into another happiness eventually.

Thank you
by: Christy

I stumbled upon your website and have thoroughly enjoyed reading about your stories and explanations. I believe wholeheartedly in Faeries and Elementals, and love reading about them. I think I might have an affinity with trees and the wind. I greet Trees when ever I get the chance and try to create a natural setting in my garden. My husband and I believe in karma and try to be good people. I love animals and nature and all that goes in it. Thank you for creating a site such as this and teaching people more about a wonderful subject.
Yours in light and love
Xxx

[Ophelia Fey says] - And thank you for your lovely note. I am very happy that you are enjoying what I have to share.

I got a horse!
by: Anonymous

I wished for a horse and it come true so fairies are real and I thank you for that gift.

[Ophelia Fey says] - Very good! Remember, that the true power comes from the Universe, the Creator, whatever you choose to call it -- and your own connection to that power. The spirits of nature merely help as much as we can. To help you become connectable, and to help you connect. To help the flow come about. This could be done without us, of course, but we do like to help.

Law of Attraction
by: Belle

Hello Ophelia,
Before I ask my question, I would just like to thank you for creating such a beautiful site. It has helped me a lot of connecting with fairies, and I'm sure it has certainly helped others.

I've picked up from reading your various responses to wishing that it is very much like the Law of Attraction. Is it the Law of Attraction to some extent? Love Belle

[Ophelia Fey says[ - What mortals need to understand about the so-called Law of Attraction, is what is doing the attracting? The outer, human mind? Or your true self? The outer, human mind will only get you so far. That is why, with true wishing, I emphasize that you must be sure it is a true wish from deep within your heart, your deep Intuition, your Spirit. This takes some practice and getting used to, since many mortals operate very much from their outer minds; that is, the human intellect, the brain. That is not the same at all as your inner Spirit, your Heart. If you make a wish from that place, then yes, this "Law of Attraction" can work. They are all just terms and words. What you name it does not matter. What is important is the Principle and the Power behind it. Try to get a feel for that, and do not be too concerned about what you call it.

Changing Form
by: ashleejo

Okay I am new to this so, my wish is to be able to turn into any animal physically when ever I want, is that possible? And my last wish was to be able to talk to animals is it possible too?

[Ophelia Fey says] - Hello Ashleejo. Please read the various things I have already written about wishing. Fairy wishes, at least, must be within the realm of human possibility. You are a human and not of the animal kingdom. Therefore it is not possible for you to physically turn into another creature. Not in any way that I am aware of.

However, it is entirely possible to commune with those in the animal kingdom, to a certain extent. It is done mostly through intuition. Animals of course, do not have the same mental capacities ("intelligence") as humans. They have their own. There are those who have learned to understand them and vice versa. It is because they have a deep caring for animals and desire to do so. To beings of nature, this is natural. I am not sure how to advise you to learn this. If you are truly interested, I suggest that you approach an expert who studies or experiences animal intelligence and communication, and learn what they have learned. And then you can perhaps expand upon it some day in your own way.

Love
by: Amanda

Do you think it would be ok to wish to find true love??

[Ophelia Fey says] - Yes, that would be quite fine. True Love means different things to different people. But whatever kind of person YOU are, that is what you will tend to attract. So if you know what kind of a person you are looking for, be sure that you, yourself, have become that kind of person as well. You may have heard the principle of becoming the person you wish to attract.

Also, it is an excellent idea to write out, perhaps in a list, the qualities you want in a person. Then visualize yourself with that person, seeing yourself enjoying each of those qualities - such as sense of humor, interest in the some of the same things, respect, intelligence, etc. Really see and feel yourself in it.

But here's the catch - do not visualize a particular person. You must leave that up to the Universe. First of all, to specify a person is like wishing at them, and may go contrary to their free will. Secondly, that specific person, unbeknownst to you (especially if you are head over heels infatuated and "love is blind") may not be your True Love. Just someone with whom you are infatuated. And there may be things about that person of which you are unaware that would really make a bad match.

There may be truly a True Love out there for you, but if get yourself limited, you might pass that Right person over. So the important thing is to be very open-minded. That is, if you are truly seeking TRUE Love.

If I could wish for one thing...
by: jasmin

I would wish to see a fairy, and be friends with one. Well, one day it almost happened. I was in my room, doing my homework. I set out a plate of goldfish crackers, because, maybe it might eat some. There were 3 on the plate. When I was done with my homework, to my surprise, only 2 were left! Oh, then from there, there were several other signs that I saw, that meant a fairy was near. it was all thanks to my goldfish crackers! :)

[Ophelia Fey says] - What a fun little story, Jasmin! Yes, and that is quite similar to how a visiting fairy would behave - take just a little something to let you know they were there.

A due date
by: Katie-Anne

Hello Ophelia: Are there 'due-dates' on fairy wishes? Does it ever 'wear off' Or after a certain amount of time, does my wish sort of 'fade away.' Or does it last forever? Thanks Ophelia.

[Ophelia Fey says] -- How long the results of a wish last, depends completely on the wish and on the person. For instance, if you are talking about becoming smart in your studies, you must realize that there are also steps that you must take. Part of the wish will be revealing to you what you must do, but also giving you a boost, energy, ideas so that it can happen.

You can't just make such a wish and then sit back and be lazy, as an example. Then the wish result will definitely fade away, because you are lacking the inner power and integrity to hold it.

Fairy wishing usually takes a bit of effort on the part of the mortal. Otherwise, people are just "using" us in order to get by, or using us to solve their problems when they are actually being quite irresponsible. Or using us for silly, superficial things that do not matter. We will of course set the wish response into motion, but whether such a person can receive it and then hold it, is another matter.

Many people wish for changes in their looks and outer appearances. While this may indeed come true, it will often happen in what may seem like somewhat ordinary ways -- until you look back on it and realize your wish really did come true. That is why I say to be alert and open to what may come. Because you never know. And things may not happen just exactly like you thought -- sometimes better although different. Also, sometimes a physical appearance is meant to be, because a person just must simply learn a lesson. And whatever that is, we cannot judge.

Keep in mind that you live in the physical plane. Where nothing is permanent and everything constantly changes. Fairies can only work within the natural laws of your world. (And as I've said, those natural laws -- if you've studied quantum physics which is just the tip of the iceberg of human understanding -- is quite amazing).

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